Tuesday, June 3, 2008

Are we Losing our Identity?

God created everyone's life different,with some unique purpose in His mind.He blessed us with free thoughts and strong will power to fulfill the unparalled aim of one's life.But we as human, are taught from the very beginning ,the key attributes of ideal person and are expected to become the same.But this sounds inane to me. What if we all act exactly the same way?How would this world look like?It will eliminate the difference between different personalities .Although there will be no sorrows,no crimes,no corruption and no disputes; everything looks perfect at first sight but it is not ,because joy can't exist without sorrow as shadow can't without light.
But this is what i think and i know there are many who strongly oppose me.And i appreciate it as critics make the reasoning more sound.Now going back to the topic.Let us do a small exercise.You have to answer all the 5 questions in just 30 seconds and don't cheat(Cheating is another interesting area to explore but we will talk abt it later :-)).If u want,u can take a paper and pencil as we will analyse your response shortly after the test.

Q1.What you wanted to become when you were in matric(10th)?
Q2.What your parents wanted you to become when you were in matric(10th)?
Q3.Which are the five most common career options chosen by people around you?
Q4.What you feel is different in you from others(some hobby,area of interest or anything...)?Can you make any career out of it?If yes, what would it be?
Q5.What you finally opted as your career?

Now Observe your answers and if answer of 2nd Question doesnt match with 1st or 3rd and you are making your career out of your choice then you are among the few who actually have their identity intact.Congrats to them.Exceptions are always there :-)But don't be afraid if you are unhappy with the outcome.I am also one of those unhappy ones.I think this is the Red Alert for all of us to change the way we handle our life.But how can we do it?Obviously by realizing the Goal of our life(Mind it,I am talking about goal of life and not the career goal). Make the thing you like to do the most as your goal.
Now there may be many questions arising in your mind related to money, reputaion which affects one's decision abt career option and how can one go for his/her area of interest or hobby if they are not that promising.What i would like to say is "Go and make as much money as you can".No one is stopping you from doing that.But you will never be satisfied with it.The more you have it ,more greedy you will become.To check whether you are satisfied with what you have earned or what you have done till date, spend some time with youself, some good 4- 5 hrs... And then you will realise you have become a clone to the guy sitting next to you and same for him also.Today,we,humans,don't need any artificial robots as we ourselves have become robots.Once you realise this,thats the time for you to look at the options, which makes you feel good and satisfied at professional as well as personal front and grab one.
Friends,things will not change overnight.Always remember the golden rule,the earlier you start the better it is.

Loveship- a new relation for new generation

Friends are a bunch of people roaming together, making fun and enjoying their life to fullest.Most of us have been through this time in our high school or college days.This relation, unique in its existence, matters a lot in everyone's life.No formalities, no tension. Gigling, pulling each others leg, drinking in same glass,eating each others share and a lot more.This is the best part of our life and that's why always remembered and cherished.

But new generation is living a different relationship. Visit any college and you will observe, people now like to be in pairs instead of groups.Their mentality has changed.This is not only happening in metro cities but in the small cities too. You will not take much time to deduce that most of the pairs are hetrosexual. They stroll around holding each other's hand (like they are one soul).They behave like lovers,looking into each others eyes, giving expensive gifts and eating every new cuisine.But this is not LOVE rather I would say, it's Loveship(This term is not coined by me) since there is no commitment from either side and they remain with each other as long as they don't find anyone better.Every month they change their partners and start again with a new beginning, again singing a love song from some new romantic film, making fake promises which they both know in advance but just ignore to realise. And the life goes on...


Well I am not against any such relationship rather concerned about the coming generation as it is going to make them mature before time with all worries of such relations. Loveship or friendship, which is better? I am not the one to answer this question .This is what one has to ask to himself and choose accordingly.